Online Dating - Meeting A Woman For The First Time
You started online dating to meet a woman. Now it is time to meet your online match for the first time. Meeting her in a comfortable environment is your best strategy for transitioning to a relationship in the real world.
Meet As Friends
When it comes time to meet your online match in person, meet as friends. Don’t go to your first meeting with the idea in your mind that she is The One or might be The One. That puts way too much pressure on your first meeting.
Meet At An Agreed Place
When your match has decided that she is ready to meet you, let her pick the place to meet. This allows her to choose a place where she will feel comfortable. She may ask for some guidance and making a few suggestions is fine. You might also want to give her a few no-go places if you don’t enjoy a particular type of food, but you should try to be flexible. Unless one of you is driving a long distance, I would try to make the meeting fairly short. Meeting for lunch, coffee or dessert all work well since none implies huge expectations.
Dress Casual
I would suggest you discuss with your match dressing casual for your first meeting. I think that helps everyone to keep their expectations in check and promotes a friendly, comfortable environment to explore the possibilities for romance. Your focus should be on one another, not the clothes that you each are wearing.
Have Fun
When you finally meet your match, relax, be yourself and have a good time. You will look your best with a smile on your face.
Send An E-Mail After Your First Meeting
If you had a successful first meeting, before you go to bed, send her a short e-mail saying that you enjoyed meeting her in person. It is a nice way to let her know that you are interested and it is the best way to help move the relationship forward.
Transitioning To A Real World Relationship
Meeting your match for the first time is a big step in transitioning you from an online/phone relationship to one in the real world. It still may be awhile before your match feels comfortable enough to give you her phone number so that you can call or her address so you can pick her up for a date. That will come with time, try to be patient and understanding. Patience might get you somewhere, impatience won’t get you anywhere.
written by Timothy Mahar his website www.RomanceForEveryone.com has some good info.
Wednesday, 30 May 2007
Monday, 28 May 2007
What quality most attracts you?
Ok so by now you should have a few 'ice breakers' under your belt. Now I would like to talk about confidence. When you are faced with someone you are attracted to it is easy to become bashfull, even if you dont feel confident it it something you can fake!
Practice is the key, Practice becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.
Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?
Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)
Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
and most important, smile and relax.
Practice is the key, Practice becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.
Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?
Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)
Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
and most important, smile and relax.
Wednesday, 23 May 2007
Monday, 21 May 2007
How to get a date.
Feel unlucky in love? Wish you could get the girl? Here are six surefire steps you can take right away to get the girl and begin a new relationship.
1. Play to your strengths.
Everyone has a special skill, whether it is humor, musical ability, drawing skills, or athletic prowess. Think about your number one strength and incorporate it into your dating arsenal. If you can play the piano like Billy Joel, it won’t matter if you don’t look like Brad Pitt.
2. Model your successful friends.
Think about the three friends you know who are successful in dating and relationships. Write down their names and two to three things each does to be successful. See if you can implement any of their ideas in your own dating approach.
3. Get a Makeover.
We’re not talking about radical, reconstructive plastic surgery here. But if you have one or two features (i.e., your hair style) that could be modernized, go for it. You’ll feel more confident and it will show on the dating scene. If you have a close friend ask them for help in this, they may see things you dont, and please dont get offended if they are trying to help you.
4. The main thing is to meet as many people as you can, and dont be afraid of rejection.
5. Perform community service.
Sign up at your local soup kitchen, clean up a rundown park area, help in a charity shop. You’ll be giving back to the community, feeling good about your contribution, and you never know who will be giving back right by your side.
6. Try speed dating or you local papers lonely hearts column.
1. Play to your strengths.
Everyone has a special skill, whether it is humor, musical ability, drawing skills, or athletic prowess. Think about your number one strength and incorporate it into your dating arsenal. If you can play the piano like Billy Joel, it won’t matter if you don’t look like Brad Pitt.
2. Model your successful friends.
Think about the three friends you know who are successful in dating and relationships. Write down their names and two to three things each does to be successful. See if you can implement any of their ideas in your own dating approach.
3. Get a Makeover.
We’re not talking about radical, reconstructive plastic surgery here. But if you have one or two features (i.e., your hair style) that could be modernized, go for it. You’ll feel more confident and it will show on the dating scene. If you have a close friend ask them for help in this, they may see things you dont, and please dont get offended if they are trying to help you.
4. The main thing is to meet as many people as you can, and dont be afraid of rejection.
5. Perform community service.
Sign up at your local soup kitchen, clean up a rundown park area, help in a charity shop. You’ll be giving back to the community, feeling good about your contribution, and you never know who will be giving back right by your side.
6. Try speed dating or you local papers lonely hearts column.
Sunday, 20 May 2007
thanks to Matty who sent me this joke in...
A boy and his date were parked on a back road some distance from town, doing what boys and girls do on back roads some distance from town. Things were getting hot and heavy when the girl stopped the boy.
"I really should ave mentioned this earlier, but I'm actually a hooker and I charge $20 for sex," she said.
The boy just looked at her for a couple of seconds, but then reluctantly paid her, and they did their thing.
After the cigarette, the boy just sat in the driver's seat looking out the window. "Why aren't we going anywhere?" asked the girl.
"Well, I should have mentioned this before, but I'm actually a taxi driver, and the fare back to town is $25."
A boy and his date were parked on a back road some distance from town, doing what boys and girls do on back roads some distance from town. Things were getting hot and heavy when the girl stopped the boy.
"I really should ave mentioned this earlier, but I'm actually a hooker and I charge $20 for sex," she said.
The boy just looked at her for a couple of seconds, but then reluctantly paid her, and they did their thing.
After the cigarette, the boy just sat in the driver's seat looking out the window. "Why aren't we going anywhere?" asked the girl.
"Well, I should have mentioned this before, but I'm actually a taxi driver, and the fare back to town is $25."
Thursday, 17 May 2007
Wednesday, 16 May 2007
Todays top chat up lines.
Todays top chat up lines...
- Screw me if I'm wrong, but isn't your name Gretchen?
- I've made the first move now come and talk to me!
- You're kind of ugly, but I'm kind of desperate. *wink*
- Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?
- Can I stand next to you? I farted over there.
- There are 246 bones in the human body......want another?
Welcome
Welcome to my charm school, I will post often with saucy/funny chat up lines for you to try out. Also dating help and advice. If you have any funny dating experiences or have a successful chat up line, please email me with details and i will post it up, also let me know if you want your name included or wish to remain anonymous.
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